Board Thread:General Discussion/@comment-184.100.223.28-20140914033336/@comment-24386552-20140914160637

But their fight was logical. Truthfully it is possible to have both. But all three ways are difficult and come at a price:

Life Choice 1: Taking on a workload and a family: Having a family is a lot of work but at the same time refreshing. You have people to fall back on when your life seems to bring you down, but it takes a ton of energy out of you causing some work sacrifices to be made. Because unless you're Ellis Grey, there's no way you can abandon your family, if you really care about them. Meredith ultimately chose this path but made sure she didn't make the same choices her mom made.

Life Choice 2: 100% (Or more) effort into work: This path meant either no relationships or relationships with little effort. That also means you have a lot of energy and time to take on great projects and workloads at the cost of being alone most of the time. But you get awarded for your hard work. Cristina took this path at the cost of having a family with Owen, but now has what it takes to win a Harper Avery.

Life choice 3: Either trying hard to commit 100% to both or doing nothing for both: That would be stupid and selfish to give no effort to work force or family, and trying to commit 100% to both consumes all energy and can be dangerous.

Being a doctor ain't easy nor is having a family. Grey's showed what happens when you choose a life choice.

Cristina's choices were explored in 10.17. Her first choice kind of went back to the whole drama with her and Owen from the end of S7 to the end of S9. And mainly 8.01 when Meredith told Owen that if he pressured Cristina in having a child she doesn't want or only has to make him happy, he would destroy her. That was shown when she was upset about not winning the harper avery because she had children. Causing her to cry in a bathroom stall.

The second choice basically showed what kind of happened at the end of the season when Cristina almost won the Harper avery award. But I still wonder though why she thought Owen was that emotionally unstable. He can't handle rejection, and wouldn't drink himself like Thatcher, just because Cristina denied him.